Popa is close the end.....and Nina's niece died..........

Sometimes the world does not make sense but there are reasons for everything. My 92 year old grandfather who is in hospice, no meds, no water, no food, no ice chips, body not functioning and in pain is wondering why he is not dead. At the same time one of my Step Moms, Nina, has just had a huge loss. Her niece who was 42 years old( my age) just passed away a few days ago after retiring fro care at homem 23 years in Military service and finding the love of her life? Why? How does this happen?

After we left my grandparents we felt like we wanted to do something to help him go peacefully. Not what you think, but pray for his soul to go in peace and "so be it". I look at my exhausted grandma and aunt who are watching over him 24/7, both with auto immune disorders, and I wish I could do more. Hospice has been great though. They are there when needed. I think what he needs is pain relief and some quiet time with out everyone fussing over him. He used to play the violin in the Detroit Youth Symphony and loves classical music. I wanted to play that instead of the food channel, which was on. But these are choices people make. When My mom's mom died( Donna...I call her mom too) four years ago July 8th, we had her favorite tunes on the CD player in critical care (private room), we lathered her with lavender oil and lotion, rubbed her feet, gently scratched her back(which she loved) and took turns lying in bed with her as she lay in a coma for almost a week, telling her we loved her and all was safe for her to go. She did go after her all the family arrived and a rainbow filled the sky while Amazing grace played on the CD player. It was her favorite bag pipe version.

I have been with so many dying people and have lost so many loved ones I guess I am OK with it all because I know there is peace on the other side for most. It is my prayer tonight that Popa go in peace and in no pain. I also have great hope for my grandmother to live a little longer to enjoy life and do the things she loves. She deserves that after years of care taking, but I fear she may follow close behind and she even says it at times. Both her parents went within days of one another. I am selfish and want her to stay !!!! In Peace..................

So glad Douglas had a chance to be with him. Popa loves Doug like his own and Doug is so good with him. He brings peace to the place. For Popa and me. Douglas was with his own father at the end too so he, as me, understands this process. Tiz a journey which is inevitable. Then a new life is born.......................